Getting Comfortable

There is no better feeling than slipping off some tight jeans and putting on sweatpants and a sweatshirt.

It just feels good.  There is no better feeling for the soul than getting comfortable with yourself and that is what I am learning to do.

I have spent so much time looking around at what others are doing and wondering if we should be doing that too.  
“What, you have a game night every Tuesday? We should too.”

“What, you only watch TV one night a week. We should too.”

“What, you make your kids vegetable smoothies 3 meals a day. I should too.”

You name it....we should too!

For years I have tried to fit my family into somebody else's mold.  My family humored me for a little bit but nothing stuck.  Now I know why...it wasn't us.  These are the things that worked for your family, not mine.  What I am finally realizing is that it is OK.  I don't need to make an excuse for why your family traditions don't work in mine.  I don't need to feel badly because your traditions don't work for my family. 

After the kids go to bed, my husband and I are spent.  We sit on the couch and watch TV until bedtime.  So many times I have tried to force that time into conversation or game time.  But the truth is at this stage in life, neither of have the energy to do much more than sit on the couch next to each other.  Sometimes we talk instead but only if one of us has something to talk about not because it is Tuesday night (I have tried the “it's talking Tuesday let's turn off TV” and then we both sat there in silence with nothing to say to eachother). Our conversations are great when they happen because they are not forced.  Better yet when they don't happen, I no longer feel badly.  I don't feel like we “should” be doing something else. I don't feel like I need to come up with some excuse about why we are watching TV.  The only thing I need to know is that right here, right now...that is what works for my family. 

And on top of all that, I give my kids poptarts for breakfast. 

And I am comfortable with that too and it feels good!